Everyone gets angry, it’s the way we handle it that counts. Be careful not to downplay your child’s feelings. Saying things like, “Don’t get so upset!” or “It’s not that important.” might just make them madder or cause them to hide their anger and take it out on someone later. Instead, help your child learn how to express their feelings. You can role play with your child and they can practice words to use in place of angry ones. Instead of, “You’re not my friend anymore!” they can try, “I’m really mad right now, let’s talk later!” Physical activities or activities that take concentration might help them cool down. Then, the next time they see their friend, they can calmly explain what upset them (“I was hurt that you talked about me to Jenny”).
This idea was taken from Home & School Connection March 2009